The app for independent voices
I was listening to a Spanish song today by Yatra and Beret that really resonates with me, with its evocative, hard landing truth:
"We call anything advice
until I realised that even those who love you
can lie to you.
Because everyone advises you enough
to make you what they want,
but not to be happy."
"Llamamos consejo a cualquier cosa
hasta que me di cuenta
que hasta quien te quiere te puede mentir.
Ya que todo el mundo te aconseja suficiente
para que seas lo que quieren,
pero no feliz."
And I found myself reminiscing of my clients when they realise just how very hard it is to be silent, listening, while you are truly present.
The most helpful thing might be NOT to help.
Just listen. No agenda. No fixing. No advice.
So you don’t get in the way of the connection, and of the other person being able to find their own answers!
I wrote about this and more in my last Substack.
If you haven't read it yet, it's here:
And if you want to learn how to do this, I have a free taster coming up on the 23rd, Listening Beyond Words.
Register here: