Don't you agree that we allow 'the other' too little into our often decades-long monogamous relationships? How on earth do we keep it exciting? What happens if we dare to talk more about exes, say who we find sexy, or perhaps even fantasize together about 'that other person'? I investigated what it brings me, at least... and I can tell you... a whole lot. The results were published as an essay in Volkskrant Magazine, now here especially for Vrouw'en readers. Have fun ;-)