What young men need is to be invited to cultivate the virtue of magnanimity. A largeness of spirit. The way I am using the term here differs from Aristotle’s usage. It’s a Christian magnanimity. And by it I mean a desire to live out the created excellence God made you for. This requires risk and always involves some amount of failure, but that failure is temporary. Because you are striving to become who God created you to be. In everything you do, work with excellence unto the Lord, with courage, to please him.