The men who spend all day on the internet building platforms generally aren’t the best examples to follow. Interestingly, these guys seldom have wives or kids, and they certainly don’t do things like coach youth sports, teach, or volunteer. For us to make progress on the crisis of masculinity, we need to get young men out doing stuff in the real world so they can be exposed to real men: on sports teams, in places of worship, in the trades, in men's choirs, in service organizations.