I would suggest look at level of education. A PhD or MD is better than a counseling psychology. Look for an older therapist with life experience who is less likely to be caught up on the current moment. Don't worry about the gender, religion or sexuality of the therapist. The therapist ideally will not be telegraphing their own values or circumstances. Neutrality and the ability to listen.

The above are general issues. But the core concern in this thread is avoiding someone who accepts and promotes gender affirmative care interventions and paradigms. For example, in my situation as a psychiatrist who does therapy, I have not yet had an actual patient who calls themselves transgender or who is gender dysphoria. But my basic views are to me common sense and do no harm focused. This means at minimum:

- One is not born in the wrong body.

- Mammals are either male or female and this is assigned at conception (notwithstanding the extraordinarily rare intersex chromosomes which are not relevant in 99+% of those contending with the issue). One is NOT assigned sex at birth. Gender is more of a social construct and to a degree subjective, but in my view, a male can identify as a woman, but not as a female and vice versa, anymore than I can call myself a dog, though I would love to be able to change places with my dog for a couple days for the experience - not happening sadly!

- It is wrong to amputate functioning organs for emotional reasons, says this circumcised man who has no qualms about it having been done at 7 days of age. But you catch my drift. A set of working breasts, a penis or vagina are just where they belong. And tragic to consider the regret that many have for the actual physiological consequences of such a procedure. Plastic surgery by adults that do not alter one's fundamental attributes is acceptable, and is paid for privately. I am aghast that insurance companies are being compelled to cover gender affirmative treatments.

- Medications like hormones are very powerful, with many effects, and like other interventions, ought not be used without pathology that warrants their use. Wanting to feminize or masculinize are not appropriate uses of such medications.

- Society should not force rigid gender expectations on males and females. A tomboy who eschews dresses and might or might not develop a same sex attraction is perfectly fine. Likewise the effeminate boy who likes pink and Barbie dolls, and Broadway over sports should be nurtured and accepted, as well as whoever they may choose to love.

The above and more in my mind is not radical, but is quite progressive and does not harm. What is crazy to use the vernacular is our bizarre world where one thinks that radical medical interventions on normal tissue is OK and that people can change their sex and more is to be celebrated rather than roundly called out and stopped by professional societies, insurance carriers and regulators.