Suffering for you kids doesn't make you a good dad.

It's easy to trick yourself into believing that, but it's a cope.

Your kids really want a dad who's thriving

Not showing up with a forced smile when he's dying inside.

They might not know the difference when they're young

But they'll feel it when they're older

And resent you for it.

Kids are true animals. They are closer to their Nature.

And Nature only cares about winners and losers.

It's not fair.

It was never meant to be fair.

Unless you're aiming for a pat on the head on your deathbed

The REAL WORK is in finding personal fulfillment, while also fulfilling the needs of your dependents.

Both are your responsibility

It's not either/or

You're willing to sacrifice for your family, great.

Sacrifice the martyr.

Show your kids how a responsible man also can love life.