Thanks for your thoughtful response, in particular your insight into Raising Raffi, which you're right, I haven't read. Some other people have accused me of steelmanning Shrier, which is probably far. The book did help me come of with the framework which featured so prominently in the piece, the zero-sumness if you will of bad therapy with resilience. And I'm not sure I entirely agree that one example of Shrier's lack of effort (or worse) should necessarily invalidate everything else in the book, though I agree it should count as a pretty point against it.