I knew when things were getting ready to blow and did everything I could to defuse the situation. As I got older this looked more like unconciously taking on other people’s feelings.
I thought I was doing because I cared.
Actually, it was co-dependence and survival mechanism.
These days, I can support someone and, at the same time, allow them to figure out their own feelings.
I built a small tool for myself called the What Did I Just Pick Up tool. Maybe it will help you too.