Being the “bigger person” as defined by abusers and their enablers is code for: turn the other cheek, don’t speak out, and take this mistreatment passively. It is an emotionally bypassing platitude that primarily operates to benefit the bully, not the victim and places the burden on the victim to constantly “rise above” the harmful actions of others without addressing the harm or pursuing justice. You already were the bigger person when they first targeted you and you will continue to be even if you respond or react in valid ways to chronic mistreatment.