you’re right. these two words are among the hardest for us to admit, especially when a conversation stops feeling like connection but rather competition. i think our resistance doesn’t lie in the message itself, only a misunderstanding of what it means. it's easy to believe that for someone else to be right, we must be wrong. and when our emotions are already elevated, that can understandably feel like self-betrayal. most of the time though, i think it’s less about about convincing someone else to agree with us, and more about allowing space for our feelings to be heard and held. there is a time for challenging whether one’s thoughts are rooted in reality, but when we're in the middle of soothing a storm that’s gone from brewing to boiling, defending our feelings hurts more than it helps. may we be steadfast in our own truth to bear witness to another's, gracefully transforming the need to be right - into the need to be right here. 📸: oksana savinova