Never before in the history of ever has there been time or space to feel the full spectrum of our feelings. Before now, survival meant foraging for food, avoiding danger, and doing what was best for the family (as a unit).

There was little room for the pursuit of pleasure or the exploration of our individual desire. That focus on survival and lack of emotional safety has been passed down from generation to generation, so good sex wasn't something people aspired to. It was merely something that happened now and then, with no discernible pattern or means to replicate it.

But we are no longer in a place where survival is the primary focus, and therefore, we can choose to focus on pleasure and connection.

We can create the ideal conditions for good sex and take the time to learn about each other and how to better satisfy each other's wants, needs, and desires.