"A black man who had a preference for a black woman for a life partner. I don't see it as racist or phobic to express the fact that he had a race-based preference just because I didn't/don't."

Hmm, interesting. I definitely see this as racist. Just as I would if a white person said it about black women. This isn't about preferences to me, I'm not saying it's racist to have a preference for certain body types of features or even skin tones. But to completely write off an entire group of millions of people, within which there's enormous variation in appearance, is more than just preference to my mind.

I have my sexual preferences when it comes to body type and complexion, but there are extraordinarily attractive women of all colours and shapes. And, of course, there's an awful lot more to a potential wife than how they look.