I was also somewhat naïve to the way a lot of guys use apps like that and the way the whole dating app/site ecosystem worked and was immediately surprised — and suspicious — of how many matches I was getting. The ratio was ridiculous and I knew something was up, and then I learned from a friend that many men (such as himself) simply cast wide nets without really paying attention to the bio and more than a cursory approval of a woman’s appearance. That disappointed me because I am sentimental and romantic and want someone to talk to me because they think I’m intriguing and seem cool, and this revelation made me feel un-special and I started to feel overwhelmed again and annoyed and figured it just wasn't for me, so I deleted it.