I heard someone once say: “If you ask God to give you patience, he’ll give you a line at the bank.”

In other words, if you’re looking to become a better person, you won’t magically become one by getting married, writing a book, having kids, or getting a gold medal at the Olympics.

You’ll become a better person by being subjected to the reality of everyday life — dealing with a screaming toddler or handling constructive criticism — over and over again until you’ve gained new skills and become a different person.