📓Field Notes: The Girls Who Don’t Say No pt 1

Here’s what I’m seeing in teenage and young women. Especially the people pleasers, the “good girls,” the ones who have never been allowed to take up space.

It doesn’t matter if it’s a party, a dorm room, a boyfriend’s house, or a doctor’s office. If you do not know how to advocate for yourself in low-stakes environments, you will not magically access or develop that skill in high-stakes ones.

Now, a pattern I am seeing. I live in El Paso so there is cultural influence here. I am watching young women lose their virginity or cross sexual lines in situations they did not actively want. (Pause, for the extremists in the back with the pitch forks silently waiting to “whataboutme” everything) this isn’t because they were pinned down or aggression was involved. I will tell you kost of the time it never plays out that way…

These situations typically occur because the young girl did not feel safe saying no.

Where did she learn saying no to a boy was dangerous?

If you think it’t men buckle up…👀