I just wanted to say thank you to everyone commenting and messaging and being so wonderful; I've read them all, and will get to you..it's been a bit overwhelming, and I'll be honest, I struggle to accept and believe such lovely things you all are saying.

The work Dylan did to tell such a full accounting, in such a short span of time is so fucking impressive.

The nature of mainstream media means people have increasingly short attention spans, so a space for long form editorial is incredibly important, so thank you Dave for letting this story be heard.

The snippets that have been in the mainstream press are important. They let individuals stories be told, and more importantly, get his name and face out too the wider public.

But, they, by their very nature, are only able to focus on the individual who they have spoken too and their relationship with Raj. This has been hugely healing for those people, and are worth it for that alone, so thank you to those who let people tell their stories.

I have more to say on this, my fosterling Silas is getting ready to tell his story, as are a few other people who have been overlooked, not by intent, but because of the need to get the main information out asap.

So I'll try find the words and means to do that for them. They deserve healing as much as everyone else… these things echo throughout time, and long after the rush of attention and media frenzy; it's like a bereaved person… everyone is there in the first weeks, bringing kai, aroha, taituarā… but then it drops off, because you can't center your life around some else's grief; it's why I tend to make a few calendar appointments for the 2 and 6 month marks, to check in.

So I'll keep on keeping on, as I tend to do. I just need a few days decompression time.

It's been a long run, and the fact it launched on the day it came out that a 17 year old nonbinary kid who was disowned by their parents for being trans starved to death in government emergency accommodation, and my own beloved 17 year old nonbinary child had their birthday, hasn't been lost on me, and shows there is still work to be done, but also great reward.

Love you all

-Tove