Inconsistent forms of affection are highly addictive for those who are love-deprived, while consistent displays are nearly unrecognizable and thus less appealing or believable. Seek first the never-ending source of self-love to retrain your heart to recognize what is pure, unconditional, and healthy. When you can make the distinction between what your trauma finds familiar and what your spirit recognizes as true love, you’ll never fall for a wolf in sheep’s clothing.