Imagine: 10 years from now you're happily married. How would the month before you met the husband of your dreams look like?

The most likely answer — exactly like right now.

You're meeting men, you have a clear idea of what you want and what's out there. You're building up your attunement to what's important so you know how to spot and filter what you want faster. You've met the embodied satisfaction of all your requirements — just not in a *single* man yet.

But you only need to get lucky *once*. You don't need to go on 10 dates with 99% guys first, this isn't a video game with tuned difficulty. You just need one date with one guy.

Obviously this isn't proof that you're just one month away: that's really up to luck and statistics. But the fact that you're going on nice-but-not-husband dates and discarding them without getting sucked into situationships is evidence *against* you being very far away and/or doomed to loneliness. It's evidence that you're in the home stretch — however long that stretch may be.