To get people to move from their defensive positions, you must always make it seem like what they are doing is of their own free will.
It is oppressive always to have to act the same way, playing the same boring role that work or duty imposes on you. People yearn for a place or a moment when they can wear a mask.
There is no bypassing the apprenticeship phase. Rid yourself of the desire to find shortcuts.
Victory will forge stronger bonds than superficial friendliness.
It is often wise to implicate in your deceptions the very person who can do you the most harm if you fail.