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I feel like a simpler rebuttal to such an article would be statistics comparing relationship happiness/satisfaction in polyamorous people and monogamous people. Does no such comparison exist which is why one must resort to reviewing n-of-1 studies or raising concerns about people deriving generalizations from a handful of n-of-1 studies?

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Judging by the discourse around "does having children make you happier?" studies, I'm not confident such statistics would accomplish much. And that's before aggressive societal selection effects.

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The samples are self selecting.

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Feb 7·edited Feb 7

You do run into the issue that people going for polyamory are more likely to be willing to adopt fringe ideas (and actually act on them) *and* they don't have as much cultural background on how to resolve these problems because it hasn't been around as long.

(Ex: I expect that early lesbian relationships tended to have more problems, but that the percentage got closer to average as a greater portion of the population participated, because the early adopters were more likely to have 'interesting' problems.)

Though poly has more inherent challenges, so I'd still expect you get higher problems on average. Dunno whether possibility of higher happiness/satisfaction outweighs that. (I'd also slightly worry that there'd be an effect of people who practice polyamory are more likely to be more willing to be selective than the average typical relationship but unsure)

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Feb 8·edited Feb 8Author

https://aella.substack.com/p/polyamory-vs-monogamy-how-relationshipslyamory-vs-monogamy-how-relationships

Aella's finding was that both very monogamous and very polyamorous people seem pretty happy, and people in the middle are unhappy.

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That link sends me to a 404 page (not found). Did the link get cut off or the post removed perhaps?

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