Child Care Chronicles (@childcarechronicles): "After my divorce, I had my son Sunday afternoon through Friday evening. He went with his dad most Friday and Saturday nights. In that context, I felt like dad was joy hoarding because they were ordering pizza and playing video games while I was giving homework reminders and taki…"

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After my divorce, I had my son Sunday afternoon through Friday evening. He went with his dad most Friday and Saturday nights. In that context, I felt like dad was joy hoarding because they were ordering pizza and playing video games while I was giving homework reminders and taking him to the dentist.

Darby Saxbe

Mar 19

Interesting perspective from stress expert Molly Dickens, PhD about whether dads are “joy hoarding,” doing only the fun stuff while moms tackle the hassles. I’m more of an optimist than Molly about fathers’ role, because I think that kids benefit when parents enjoy spending time with them. Sure, I’d be annoyed if my kids’ dad only showed up to take my kid…

Joy hoarding is an extreme imbalance – when one parent (usually the father) focuses their “child care” time only on the fun shit, tapping into the joy of parenting with little of the stress, while the other parent (usually the mother) gets pushed into the hours that require more of the hard shit.

Molly Dickens, PhD

Mar 19

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