We recently made the (complicated) decision to have fewer fights with one of our kids. We had a lot of reasons for this, but it does mean I have a lot of parenting moves that my previous self would have judged very harshly. And it’s taken some time to let that go, but it has certainly opened my eyes to the ideas that a lot of people make decisions every day in parenting that have reasons that go far beyond what a bystander sees. I wish I’d learned this earlier, and saved myself a lot of internal eye-rolling and judgment. (and those that can really allow themselves to say, well that works them and let it go will also have far more forgiveness for themselves when in that same situation.)