You know it’s interesting. I am not a terribly anxious person and I’m basically allergic to people who take stuff (yes including motherhood) too seriously. So I end up dismissing a lot of what I read on Substack about motherhood purely on the grounds of being uhh a bit much. But given the gravity with which some of you talk about the serious harms to children of industrial era parenting norms (daycare, formula, sleep training), if I were to take you guys seriously, I think I’d conclude that it’s irresponsible for most people to have kids in this day and age. Like we all seem to agree that breastfeeding on demand and cosleeping and remaining in very close proximity to one’s child for the first three years of life are out of reach for a lot of people given the structure of modern society. If those things are as essential to a child’s well-being as some of you insist, then not only should we remake society to universally allow for them, but the people for whom those things are currently infeasible should probably hold off on having children until we do.