I think this is one of your most important articles. So many men are beset by anxiety, anguish, and depression and either keep it bottled up or try to muscle through — because those are the strategies the general culture sets before them.
Too, “be anxious for nothing,” “trust in God,” “trust in the power of the Cross” are worse than meaningless for these men. They are added afflictions. The Christian man suffering from depression already knows this, and already feels a failure and maybe even punished or condemned for being anxious or not trusting. Well-meaning friends who cheerlead from the side with counsel like this are like Job’s friends.
You offer the best advice in a short piece for resolving anxiety and depression that I have ever seen. I would simply add that the man who is not somewhat anxious or depressed at the state of the world, the state of the Church, the constant toxic challenges to his identity as man, leader, protector, and provider is delusional, a “master of the universe” causing these problems for others, or a master of himself and well on the way to a sane and sparkling sanctity.
Psychotherapy can be a major help. I recurred to it myself when beset with major clinical depression in my late forties and early fifties and I would not have gotten through without it. One reaches a point when therapy has done all it can do — which is much — and what is really needed is competent spiritual direction: just as psychological affliction requires psychological means, so spiritual affliction requires spiritual means. The absolute best direction I have found comes from John of the Cross, Teresa of Avila, Therese of Lisieux, and Br. Lawrence: Carmelites all. Pray God raise more men to the ranks of spiritual director to help their brothers scale the heights.
I would add as well that depression is a mental illness rooted not just in alienation but from loneliness. Men need the fellowship of other men — men with whom they can share the joys and burdens, men they support and are supported by, men whom they can mentor and from whom they can receive mentorship. This fellowship arises out of common purpose and commitment — as in the Fellowship of the Ring. Anything that can be done to promote authentic fellowship amongst men strengthens everything — the men themselves, their family, their workplaces, their places of worship. Anything that can be done to promote fellowship in the quest for intimate male friendship with the Redeemer-King is good for everyone.